Why cant I be HAPPY?

Idk! Why can't you be happy? What's stopping you from having joy deep in your heart? Why are you so miserable? Are you the type of person that when someone says "smile" you say "what's there to smile about?" Well I would say nothing with that type of attitude! Many a time we hold ourselves back from succeeding and it's our own fault! We never really BELIEVE we can be happy so we accept the inevitable. But that's not how it's supposed to be. We should be living in abundance with joy in our heart so what is keeping you from discovering that joy? Well, I have a few suggestions for you...

1.Count your blessings
I know things may seem a little harder than normal, I know that you can be under so much stress you feel like giving up. You have looked to the left and you have looked to the right but now it's time to look up! Stop worrying over all your problems and start thinking about the things that you are grateful for! If you need to, MAKE A LIST. You don't believe you're blessed? Everything is a blessing. The ability to walk, the ability to talk, your health, people who love you, your determination, your children, your life as a whole! Notice how I didn't mention anything about material things, huh? That's because material things are a luxury. Your car, your job, that new Louis purse, whatever the case may be... you may or may not have these things readily available to you but if you do, be thankful. You never know how the next person is living.

2. Look at the people who surround you.
Who are your friends? Your colleagues? Your associates? Mentors? These groups of people have a GREAT significance in your life whether it be positive or negative. People have the ability to influence you and you want to make sure you're surrounding yourself with the BEST people possible. People that want to uplift, motivate, and encourage you to be a better you. And ever if they aren't physically saying these things to you, you should be able to LOOK at them and be inspired to be better. Lose the gossipers, the people who are always complaining about their situation, their health, themselves in general. These people only bring you further down then you already were. Are these REALLY the type of people you want to be around. Stop settling because you "grew up with them." That's great! Now GROW UP and make a difference. Stop waiting for the confirmation from "them." Who are THEY? No one if they're not making a positive impact on your life. ;-)

3.Bless OTHERS
So you've realized your blessings, you've changed your circle, now it's time BE A ROLE MODEL. The best way to realize your own blessings is by blessing others! This is not optional, this is MANDATORY to realize your full potential. This is the key to opening your heart and letting love overflow to others. Get out in your community, tutor, mentor, run for a cause GIVE BACK. This is also a great way to network and add the right people to your circle. See how all of these things are tying together? Awareness.

You are what you make yourself out to be. It doesn't matter what anyone says to you, your happiness comes from within. So find yourself, your joy, and meet me at the top! ;-) <3

*nikimodo*

If You Give a Mouse a Cookie...

I gave you a crumb, and you took my plate.
I gave you a stone, and you tried to climb my mountain.
That sip of water I offered?? Yea, your thirsty ass had your hand out waiting to receive my waterfall!
But at the end of the day, I am me and you are you.
I will lend a helping hand, but not at the expense of my own health.
Material things mean nothing to me, and your well-being keeps me turning.
But it's time for you to start taking responsibility for your your life.
No more excuses. You control your own destiny.
I'll always be here for moral support.
Instead of giving you the sushi on my plate, I'd rather teach you how to fish.

You can only do so much for those around you. I firmly believe that in giving, you will ALWAYS receive something in return. But don't be so blind and be fooled by the users. Just because you give THEM something, doesn't necessarily mean you will receive your reward from THEM. The blessing of others is always a gift but you have to realize that there are people in your circle, in your home, in your family, in your life, who will make an example of you. They want to see how much they can get out of you. The best thing you can do for these people is to stop babying them, and give them the chance to learn and grow. Teach them the importance of being able to survive and become successful on their own. But you could always have them living in your basement, paying their car note & child support at 30! Or you could push them out the door and teach them how to LIVE. It's up to you. ;-)